How do you stop yourself from falling for someone? Or, more importantly, why is that always my first reflex - to stop - when I realize that I'm falling? I can never just let myself go. It's as if I don't trust myself to woo the other person, to send him head over heels for me, and as if I don't trust the other to live up to these standards I've created, this impossible bar that I've set. It's as if I don't trust him to not break my heart.
I'm just setting myself up for disappointment by not ever giving myself a chance.
So. I guess the question of the night (morning?) is actually this - how do I convince myself that I can fall for someone without suffering repercussions?
EDIT: What the heck is up with p.n.n?
3 comments:
oh hanna. i find myself doing the complete opposite of you. frankly, i can't help but not fall for people... in many ways, i suppose not thinking about things really makes things that way, but then i DO start thinking, causing things to come up. oh why are we so insane.
so yes: my advice is to approach relationships with a zeitgeist attitude... i mean, these things should be happy and fun, right? so don't think too much. i find that thinking just leads to more questions, and inevitably problems :/
OH~ and don't do anything i wouldn't do. hahahahah
ps: new blog? haha
pss: eh. i feel better. going to the bank and spending money makes me superficially happy :D haha
p.n.n isn't parsing HTML correctly right now so it's just going nuts.
As per relationships... I think the advice I have to offer is just do it. You'll know when to take that advice, until then, you're likely wise in not doing so.
Your hesitation could possibly be well-deserved.
Not that I'm an expert on the subject, but I find that in love logic does not apply. Thus, I find any questions to be somewhat rhetorical, as answers to them are extremely individual and rarely really help.
That being said, I've found one particular piece of advice to be fairly universal: don't overthink. I've done it before, and I'm pretty sure I'm doing it again right now, but I know it's bad. Like Kevin said, "these things should be happy and fun." The mind has a mean habit of getting in the way of that.
Risk it, take a chance, just go for it, at least once. You'll only live once and be 20 for no more than a year, make it count. The real world is just around the corner, and having not been a student this quarter I can attest to its difference from the much more worry-free college life. I'm itching to be back in class and on campus and around more 20-year-olds starting in January. Adventures every day! No pain, no gain, really...
And it's a peculiar day when Nike has the best answer: Just do it.
(I sincerely apologize for the zillion cliches. I couldn't help myself.)
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